Room checks and tidy desks: is it fair to ask kids to follow rules we don’t follow as grown-ups?
As soon as I walked into my flat this evening, I threw my coat on the couch, kicked off my shoes, an...
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“That’s a tomorrow problem”: how I’m learning to cope with an incomplete to-do list.
For an OC individual, there’s nothing more satisfying than checking items off a to-do list. On the...
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Summer school chaos – or how my OC tendencies impacted my first leadership role
This summer, I worked as a Team Leader for a summer language school. My role involved being a line m...
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Loving the questions themselves: how self-enquiry is decreasing my suffering.
Recently, I came across a quote by the poet Rainer Maria Rilke. “Be patient toward all that is uns...
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Learning how to supervise: the 2024 RO DBT retreat
Well, who doesn’t want to go to the South of France for a 4-day retreat? Especially when you get t...
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Moving in the other direction: learning to embrace a different coping style with intention
A previous therapist of mine once told me that she had been massively overcontrolled (OC) for a good...
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RO DBT: a new way of moving around your life
When I was offered RO DBT, I thought, “Right, this is going to make everything better. Let’s go....
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Faking positivity: it’s nothing but exhausting
Overcontrolled (OC) individuals are experts at masking their feelings, and are especially talented w...
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Surfing the waves of change…in my mind or in real life?
I recently moved to a new country and learned that moving abroad gives you endless opportunities to ...
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I’m a huge fan of rules…or am I?
I’ve always been an avid rule follower, especially in school. As a child, if my teacher told me to...
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